When ever I hear a woman in a polygamous marriage speak, they always talk about jealousy. And it always leaves me feeling like they don’t understand what jealousy is at all. Polygamous women always say that we are all selfish and jealous people. Living polygamously helps them reform their character because it puts their own jealousy right in their face. I think they fail to see that some jealousy is good. They ignore all of the scripture in which God himself declares that he is a “jealous God”. You absolutely should be jealous if some one takes something that is only supposed to belong to you. Wives should feel justified jealousy if another woman is sleeping with their husbands. That is a right and appropriate feeling.
It’s akin to saying “God is really showing me what an angry person I am. Every time I see my husband beat my kids I get so angry. God obviously put me in this situation so that I would learn not to be angry.” Wrong lesson!
In looking at the events of Emma Smith’s life after the death of Joseph, it seems obvious that she was never going to have anything to do with polygamy again. I think she learned what righteous jealousy was all about. I feel bad that she had to learn it in such a difficult way.