One of my visitors stated this oft repeated LDS maxim:
Ex-Mormons usually got to be “ex” because of one of three things, according to my experience with a great many ex-Mormons.
1. They never caught fire
2. They chose worldliness over Godliness and as a consequense [sic], lost their connection to The Holy Spirit.
3. Their lifestyle was incompatible with Church teachings.
I think this is a terrible misrepresentation and over generalization. I think it got its start as a means of giving confirmation bias to people who remain in the church. It’s much easier to judge someone else as a sinner than to actually engage with ideas. There are no doubt people who left the church because they didn’t like the righteousness standards promoted in the church. But there are many many people who don’t want to leave the church at all but don’t feel they can intellectually justify the church’s description of itself or its history. These people often go on living by the same standards for quite some time even though they have no longer have a connection to the church.
It’s akin to someone claiming “People only join the LDS church because they are weak minded and subject to brain washing.” or “People only become atheist because they have bad relationships with their fathers.”
Statements like this are just a way to write some one off as some one I don’t need to listen to.